more dad issues

My brother and my dad have been having problems. One major theme is time and the difficulty of taking care of someone with dementia. Getting him to eat/finish his meals, showering, changing, etc. I think he's getting worse at his activities of daily living. He's down to 129lbs from 150 when I left him last year. That's a lot of weight to drop in 1 year. I'm worried about malnutrition. His diabetes is under control at last checkup. But no one checks his blood sugar regularly so I don't know how he is until his next checkup in december.

I was struggling over what I should do. At first I was going to go back and take over caring for him, but I couldn't defer my acceptance to Drexel and I couldn't get a refund on my tuition. The other option I am considering is for him to move into a boarding house. It's more expensive and he'll still need to go to day care a few days a week. But it's better than the other option of him moving here with me. It's more dangerous here. He will get lost and wander to a neighborhood that's not so nice. He'll lose his keys and won't know what to do. Day care is also more expensive here and once our money runs out, I don't think he can get medical from CA to help him here and I haven't looked into how PA Medicaid will work if he's not a resident.

The boarding house is nice, it's run by Phillipinos and they seem to make good food so at least he'll be fed well and they'll make sure he eats. They'll also accompany him if he decides to go out for a walk or if he wants to go to the mall or something. The rooms are simple rooms, they look a bit depressing. But the house seems nice in general. I had my friends go and take a look at it last weekend.

The problem is now to convince my dad to move. He fell down the stairs the other day and he had bruises and lacerations on his face from it. It's not healthy where he's at and my brother doesn't have the time to care for him anymore. The last resort is to move him out here. Maybe I'll defer med school after 1st year and come back later when I'm able to. It's hard right now.